I really need help. My beautiful daughter just became engaged. Her father and I divorced when she was 19, as he was having an affair. The bride to be has always lived at home with me. The brides father married the one that was part of the cause of the divorce.
Now to make matters more complicated, the Grooms mother has become "best friends" with the fathers "newer" wife. I do not want to stress my daughter, but the thought of having the "new" wife present at anything makes me so upset and physically sick. I don't want to be this stressed for the wedding celebrations and my daughter stated that she was sensitive to my needs. I don't want this to hurt her anymore than it has.
I don't want the homewrecker to be invited to anything. The father can come alone. The deception, treachery, betrayal and divorce almost killed me...also now, that the grooms mother and the "other ' woman are friends, how would I ever deal with this, along with all the emotions involved in my daughters wedding. i am not a shallow vindictive person, but this is something I have dreaded. My solution is that she not be invited to anything. That I could deal with.
Unfortunately you don't have the say in this. The only say you have is what you do and where you go. Hopefully your exes wife will stay away from you.
She would be sitting in the third row with her husband while you would be sitting in the front.
Even with the circumstances as they are, it wouldn't be polite for your daughter to invite her father without his wife. It would be polite of her to stay home though. But again, that would be her choice.
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