Dad and Mom seperated in August they are not divorced. Mom is now living with her new boyfriend. My sister and I are living with our Dad. We do not have a problem with Mom's boyfriend. The problem is Dad says if the boyfriend shows up at the wedding he will leave. My aunts are helping me with the wedding so it will cost very little and Mom's boyfriend will pay that. I would like for him to be there. My aunt's say it would not be right for him to sit with my Mom. Dad will stand with the groom's men so that he doesn't have to sit with my mom. There are 3 sections of pews in the church. Should I set Dad's family on one side, the grooms family in the center and Mom's family on the other side or should I just let everyone set where ever they want to? Should I ask Mom to leave her boyfriend at home even though he is going to help pay ($150.00 at the most)?
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
What a very difficult, and painful situation for you to be dealing with. As your parents separated so recently I can understand that it is very hard for your dad. As you seem to be close to your aunts can you ask them to talk to your parents to ask if they can be just that - your parents - for the day.
Then if you are sensitive to all the different feelings it might be possible for both men to be at the wedding but kept well apart. This should be an issue which is solved by your parents, not you. Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
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