My mother passed away about 4 years ago and I would like to do something small in her memory, I dont want it to be too sad because I will already be emotional enough. I was considering maybe something like one chair with flowers on it. One small problem is my Dad has a girlfriend and I already spoke to her and it doesn't bother her but what would you suggest I do to respect my moms memory and also not make my dad's girlfriend or anyone else feel uncomfortable.
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My mother died when I was a teenager and my siter and I both had weddings without her. Sadly, my dad never dated or got remarried but your dad's new woman should not feel uncomfortable with you remembering your mom in the ceremony. After all, she was your mom and a very special person in your life. I think it is important not to make it a focal pint of the day as it is a sad topic. We both had a short candle lighting where we simply, witout fanfare or speech, lit a Memorial Candle. Now, the candle still sits in a curio cabinet with a few other momentos of the day. Here are some ways to do it:
Provide a second table at the altar or near the front of the church. On it, place a Memorial Candle in tribute to your loved ones.
Ask your officiant to include them at the beginning of the candle-lighting ceremony. For example, "Before (Bride) and (Groom) light a candle to symbolize their union, they will light a candle in honor of (Loved One), whom they dearly miss, and who they know is present with them here today."
Then, light the Memorial Candle, ask the officiant to say a prayer, then move to the altar to light your Unity Candle.
Light Taper Candles In Memorium
It is traditional to have one or both parents light the individual tapers for their children before the bride and groom light the Unity Candle. If one or both of your parents is deceased, the bride or groom can light the taper and ask the officiant to acknowledge the act before the Unity Candle is lit.
You may also think of using candelabras, and having sisters, brothers, or other family members light a candle for each relative that is no longer with you.
Share a commemorative moment at your wedding ceremony by placing a flower in this memorial bud vase, printed with sentimental words honoring a loved one.
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