My father is an alcoholic and I'm very resentful of that fact. My parents have been gracious enough to host my wedding reception at their home and to take care of all decorating/catering/etc. However, my fiance and I really, really want a dry wedding and reception for many reasons - among them is that my father drinking, especially on my wedding day, would be extremely stressful on me. I've never been married, so I don't know how good the wedding day truly is, but I expect that it could really ruin the entire day for me, or at least put me in the bathroom crying for a while. Is it okay to insist that he doesn't drink or should I try to just deal with it? If I insist on a dry reception and they retract their offer is it reasonable for me to make other arrangements or will this be making a big deal out of what should be nothing? And my last question is this: If he agrees not to drink, but then does, what would be the most tactful way to handle it?
Most guest expect alcohol at receptions. But, you could host this early in the day when guests won't expect to drink, perhaps 11am or 2pm. Then you could have more of a tea party or punch and cake party.
It is perfectly acceptable to request that your father does not drink. But, if he does, it is his home and he can do whatever he wishes.
You know your father better than I, so it is difficult to know exactly how to interact with him. But, I would imagine that you could politely remind him of his promise not to drink if he does (hopefully he will promise not to drink).
You definitely could host your own reception and you would have complete control. This is a logical option.
parents hosting reception - no alchohol?
