My father and stepmom have said that they would help with the wedding and that my fiance and I just need to ask. Both my fiance and I work and have been saving for a year and would love to accept some financial help from my parents. However, my fiance and I are not too keen on asking for help. Is it wrong for them to say this and perhaps just offer an amount? My dad knows that I am prideful and have never asked for anything. Should I be bothered that he and my step mom do not offer a set amount, especially when he told me that they have no money to finance the whole wedding? Both my fiance and I just feel VERY uncomfortable asking for anything, and we think that my parents should have offered what they want to contribute. Are we reading into this?
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Re: [nostress] parents offering financial help for wedding
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Dear Nostress,
In most cases it isn't polite to offer a gift with stipulations. You really shouldn't have to ask for it. But, maybe they just don't know how much you need and don't know what amount would be appropriate.
I don't like to ask anyone for anything either. It really isn't polite in many cases, as it puts others in a difficult position. So, if he says it again, perhaps you could inform him that if he wishes to give you a gift, it is his choice of what that gift will be. This puts it right back on them to decide what they want to do.
It is best to plan your wedding with your budget and not count on any financial assistance.
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