should i miss my brother's engagement party since he chose a weekend he knew I was not free on
My older brother just got engaged and asked my family (my parents and I) to host two engagement parties for him. He asked me for my schedule and told me that nothing was more important to him than me being at his wedding celebrations. We have a close relationship and so of course I also could not imagine missing his wedding festivities. My brother and his fiancee want everything to happen very quickly so they asked me in March for my schedule for May. I gave him my schedule for May as they requested and made very clear that unfortunately I already had important prior engagements on many of the weekends which i could not change (I had already committed to a close friend's destination wedding and paid for my travel and I have to study for law school exams on the other 2 weekends) so there were 3 out of 5 weekends in May that I could not make it.
At first he said he would work around those dates but now after 3 weeks of phone calling and fighting about dates he has decided to have one party on a weekend that I cannot make it and the other party on a weekend I can make it. The reason is that his fiancee's family lives in another country and they want to come for the engagement parties so these were the only dates that work for them. I was extremely hurt that he would choose to accommodate their family's schedule over mine since it basically meant to me that he would rather have them at the party than me. I am also mad because these are events that my family is hosting and so it is a celebration with my family and friends that I will be missing.
He is having his party on Saturday night and I have my biggest exam that Monday morning, which will have a huge impact on my ability to get a job. Should I miss his party to study?
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Mar 28, 2008, 7:18 PM
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Re: [veryupset] should i miss my brother's engagement party since he chose a weekend he knew I was not free on
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Dear Veryupset,
Honestly no one can make this decision for you. You have to make the choice that is best for you. But, you are not obligated to attend, especially since he knew your schedule.
Now, about asking for others to host a party in your honor: it is not polite to ask others to host any type of party for you. It is unfortunate your brother chose to do did this.
should i miss my brother's engagement party since he chose a weekend he knew I was not free on
