My fiance and I are having a debate as to who should be the bearer of bad news. Our wedding is in 2 months and we just sent out the invitations but there is one we are holding onto. My fiance has a friend that I have known for longer than I've known him (my fiance) and we have never really gotten along but I put up with him for my fiance's sake. This friend and his girlfriend moved in with us in September and have just moved out a few weeks ago. The two boys still work together and the girlfriend and I still work together. Not only was this couple the cause of many arguments for us then there is one last huge argument-whether to invite just him-in that case who tells who? Or to not invite either of them and then when they ask where their invite is what do we say? My fiance is worried about all of the other friends in their social circle being upset with him-including this friend's parents-for being rude. I do not want this girl at my wedding. She is a drama queen and every time I'm around her I tense up in anger. I've never felt this way about anyone. One of my bridesmaids feels the same way about this girl. She is much younger than us and immature. Should I just give in and let them both come? I also don't feel like I should have to pay $40 per plate for someone I don't want near me on my special day. I'm pretty angry and confused with this whole situation. Help.
If you invite one, you are obligated to invite both as we invite the significant other of our guest. What you should do is a personal decision and no one but you two can make that decision. But, you are under no obligation to invite either one and don't have to explain.
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