My fiance feels that if I invite my 5 second cousins in the age range of 10-14 she would be required out of "wedding etiquette" to invite her second cousins as well, which she does not want to do. She is afraid that by inviting my second cousins this would be rude to her side of the family. But not inviting my second cousins creates a ripple effect on my side of the family in which I would not feel comfortable inviting my first cousins, then my aunt and uncle, then I couldn't invite any of those on my dads side of the family and it gets ugly. I told her that if I had a crazy aunt I didn't want to invite, that wouldn't mean that she couldn't invite any of her aunts? In response she plays the "no kids invited" card except for kids in the wedding party. I agree to this with an exception. I believe that not inviting the kids of our friends is fine and they would all understand, but family is family and those kids should be invited. I'm just hoping someone can clear the air on wedding etiquette for me and if i have it all wrong my guest list just gets shorter
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Apr 11, 2007, 6:36 PM
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Re: [guestlistfun] wedding guest list etiquette
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Dear Guestlistfun,
Any cousin may or may not be invited. It doesn't have to be even on both sides. We are all closer to some family than others. But, there may be a problem with the children issue.
Although we should be able to invite anyone we wish, especially children, the parents of those children not invited often become angry about their special little ones being excluded. We find this time and time again. So, for harmonies sake, it is best to invite all or none. This goes for those in the wedding party. If you plan to exclude children, it is best to avoid including them as flower or ring children/bearers.
Please read our may posts concerning children in the wedding party. It can get ugly.
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