are you expected to give a wedding gift if you are in the bridal party? i was in a wedding three years ago and the bride has just brought up the fact that a gift was never received by me.
All gift giving is optional and should never be expected, however... It is common for those in the bridal party to give a gift. Just one. The gift could be a joint gift from all the attendants and does not have to be expensive.
I would reconsider my friendship with this person since it seems all she is interested in is the gifts. Three years later and she still remembers that you didn't give a gift and then brings it up to you? Tacky! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".