coursages vs nosegays for mother of the bride and mother of the groom
Please help! I've got a dilemma. I'm getting married in 23 days and suddenly the MOB and MOG are butting heads. My mom wants to have a wrist corsage because her dress material is delicate, but his mom wants a bouquet. My mom doesn't want her to have one because she thinks only the bride and bridesmaids should have them and it will put more focus on her than on my mom. Both of them are being stubborn and I can't find any steadfast etiquette rules to help me sway them one way or the other. I don't really care except I want them to be happy. I don't want a rough day of trying to smooth ruffled feathers... can you give me an out?
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expertplanner
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Re: [Stargal_66] coursages vs nosegays for mother of the bride and mother of the groom
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The MOG having a nosegay is not going to make people look more at her than your mom who might be wearing a corsage. Yes, it is nice when the moms carry the same style as it does provide a look of consistency for photos, but it is not mandatory that they be the same. Besides, people are coming there to witness you get married, not to see what type of floral accessories the mothers are wearing.
As long as you are okay with it, both women should be permitted to wear the type of floral adornments each desires. I know you love your mom. I also know you want both of the moms to be happy. Here is what I recommend.
Since the challenge seems to stem primarily from your mother, share with her that you do want her to be happy. But you are also concerned with your fiance's mother's feelings too. So, you believe it to be best that both should be able to carry the arrangements each wants.
Remind her that after the wedding, there will be a marriage and you will have to deal with your future mother-in-law again. Much more so than your mother will. So, giving in on this one small thing could go a long way toward the future in-law relationships.
Cheers!
Stargal_66
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Re: [expertplanner] coursages vs nosegays for mother of the bride and mother of the groom
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Thanks so much! My mom has agreed to carry a small nosegay so that the pictures are balanced, what a great way to rationalize it to her, I really appreciate it!
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