I have no sense of wedding etiquette at all. If I want to donate to a bank account that the couple has set up for the purchase of their new home, how do I let them know that I've done that? There is information on their wedding web site about where to donate, but I don't understand how they are then informed that I have placed my gift in that account. Do I say that in my card? If so, how do I phrase it graciously? If not, do I even give a card (assuming that they will some day see my name on a list of donors to the account)? I do want to do this properly. Thanks!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: [nosense] Alerting Couple to Gift to Bank Account
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Dear Nosense,
First, my opinion of the account: yuk. Sorry, but I just had to say it. Why would guests be expected to help a couple purchase a home because they decided to get married? I know it is supposed to be considered appropriate these days, but I just can't see how this is fair to the guests. And, as a good host we should always consider what is fair for our guests.
In fact, I am not alone in my thinking. Many guests refuse to give anything when a couple creates these accounts, which is why I mention that they are available but try to dissuade couples from using them. So, it is not your lack of knowledge of wedding etiquette that is an issue here.
If you used the info on their wedding website to give your hard earned dollars, then your name and amount would be listed in the data base. So, you don't have to mention that you gave. You can just send a congratulatory card now.
Alerting Couple to Gift to Bank Account
