Okay. I see this question has occured many times on this forum, but nothing seems to apply to my situation.
I am about to send out announcements, and I understand that it is a faux pas to mention gifts, but...I feel it is completely necessary in our situation.
A week after we are to be married, we are not settling down, but we are going to be traveling the country with a touring band. And once the tour is over, we are moving far away from our current homes with our parents, so yes, we are going to need things to settle down with. BUT we aren't going to have room on a bus for toasters, fancy bath towels, and pans.
Plus this move is going to cost us a fortune in the first place and most of it has so far been financed through donations and selling our most valuable but useless possessions.
We don't expect anyone to give us anything. That's not what we have in mind at all. But we are very much afraid that someone, with the good intentions of helping us settle, may bring us something that we won't be able to take with us on the bus.
So. I make no sense.
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edited by TWQadmin on May 7, 2006, 9:44 AM)
I think what you mean is that you are about to send the wedding invitations, not announcements. Announcements would be sent after the wedding to anyone not invited to the wedding who needs to know that you have been married. A wedding announcement does not obligate the recipient to send a gift.
Wedding gifts are typically sent to the home of the bride before the wedding so hopefully your guests will understand this gift giving etiquette. If someone does bring a gift you will have to arrange to have it shipped to your home or possibly you can appoint a close family member or friend to take charge of these gifts until you are settled.
However, you should not include any information about gifts on or in a wedding invitation. Pass the word through friends and family and to anyone who asks. Mentioning gifts implies you are expecting gifts and this is not a proper assumption. You must allow a guest to decide for themselves if and what gift they select to send. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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