I have looked through all the posts in the gift forum and I haven't found an answer to this basic question, but I've seen a lot of repeat questions so I'm sorry if this has been asked and answered already.
I'm the best man in my buddy's upcoming wedding, and I am unsure as to what proper etiquette would dictate that I give as gifts. Obviously there will be a gift to the bride and groom, but I've seen some vague references to the groomsmen getting a gift for the groom. Am I expected to give a separate gift to the groom, or have I misconstrued what I've read? Is that just me, or do all the groomsmen give a gift (If so, should I point this out to them, since they're unlikely to be aware of it? - we're all really close friends). Or can/do the best man and groomsmen give a gift to the groom as a group? Is this supposed to be something substantial - along the lines of the wedding gift per se - or something token?
Would this be separate from any sort of shower for the couple? If there a shower for them, I didn't hear about it (they may not have mentioned it, since I live on the opposite coast?).
Thanks for bearing with my questions! First time going through this. Can you tell?
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jun 28, 2005, 11:37 AM
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Re: [bestmandon] Best Man's gift giving responsibilities?
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Dear Best Man,
Thank you for trying to find your answer. That was very considerate of you.
You are expected to give one gift. This can be a gift that all of the groomsmen purchase together or one from each of you. The gift would be a typical wedding gift.
You and all of the other attendants are already spending a considerable amount of money and time on this wedding, so the gift does not have to be expensive.
Best Man's gift giving responsibilities?
