I am getting married in June 2006. My good friend is getting married in Oct 2005. She will be a bridesmaid in my wedding; however, I am NOT in her wedding at all. It was actually a HUGE ordeal and after much crying and upset-ness, I was still not in her wedding. Since then, it seems as though she has "distanced" herself from me. She once claimed that she was hurt that I would think I was a part of her day, even though we are pretty close (but not as close as I thought). Before any of this had happened, I told her I would love to plan a shower for her in a town where she used to live with a bunch of college friends (because they would all be at school here). I still sort of want to do this for her, but I'm not a bridesmaid or anything. I realize I'm not "obligated" or anything, but is there any etiquette on this matter??? I know her mom and MOH are throwing showers, but those will be up where she lives now with mostly her family.
You don't have to be a bridesmaid to host a bridal shower but family members should not be hosting a shower for the bride unless they are part of the bridal party. If you want to host a shower for your friend first let her know what you're planning and see if she wants this. If she agrees then invite only those also invited to the wedding. The bride will be able to provide a list to you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Bridal Shower Planning
