We are having a destination wedding (3.5 hour drive from our home, and most of our guests' homes). We would like to put a small card in our invitations that states, essentially, no gifts - your presence is you present. Our family threw us a bridal shower, against our wishes, and we feel strongly that we don't want any more gifts, we just want people to share our day. Everything we've read states that you should never even reference gifts in an invitation, but this is a tough issue for us. Any advice?
Although I respect and applaud your care for your guests in this hurting economy, we never make mention of gifts, wanting them or not, in the wedding invitation. It implies that you expected the guest to send a gift, which isn't polite.
Let your friends and family know of your intentions and, certainly, if anyone asks you can let them know verbally. Also, if you have a wedding website, you can post your giftless wish somewhere on one of the internal pages (not on the homepage).
Congratulations and best wishes, Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Bravo! I wish everyone was this considerate of their guests these days. But, the Wedding Queen is right and offered excellent advice. Word of mouth can be pretty effective. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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