My fiance and I live in the northwest but he is from Hawaii. We are having a wedding on Oahu and expecting about 100 people...75 from the islands and 25 from the mainland. We are saving up for a deposit on a house and need a new bed, other than that, we already have too much of the little stuff so we're not planning on on registering. We're worried that if people do show up with gifts, it will be difficult or we will be unable to get them back home to the northwest safely but appreciate the thought behind a gift. How do we properly ask people who are attending the wedding to send gifts, although we don't need them, to our home? Word of mouth is difficult because most of the people attending the wedding do not know each other and many of them don't know our families. We know not to ask for money but purchasing a house is all we dream about. We really don't want to come off greedy and truly are not greedy people...we would just appreciate help towards a down payment so much! Even something as little as $10.00 adds up in the long run. Is there any way to nicely let them know that this is all we wish for? Help! Any advice for all of this?
Elaine
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Sep 14, 2006, 10:00 AM
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Re: [MElaine] Destination for me, home for him, gifts...
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Dear Elaine,
There really is no polite way to do this. The only way is when people ask, you could say that you really don't need things and you are saving for a home. But, anything they wish to give is nice. Other than that it is impolite to ask for cash for any reason.
We usually spread the word by letting a few friends know and they spread the word in their little circles.
Destination for me, home for him, gifts...
