My daughter was married this past Saturday and it was a wonderful celebration. After the wedding, they went through all the gifts and cards to properly make note of who to send thank you notes too. They noticed that they did not receive a gift from a couple who are personal friends of ours. I know they are generous people and always give gifts, so I was worried it got lost at the reception. After checking with another friend whose wedding this same couple attended last year, I found out that this couple generally sends their gifts late, even up to 6 months late.
Do we just assume it wasn't lost and that they are planning on sending it late? I know it would be impolite to ask or assume they gave a gift, but I'd hate for their gift to be lost and they don't receive a thank you card.
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This is the reason that all wedding gifts should be sent to the home of the bride before the wedding.
There's not much you can do but wait. If your daughter receives a gift she'll send a thank you note. If the gift was sent by this couple, and they don't get a thank you note, then hopefully they'll contact your daughter. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thank you both. I completely understand now why it's best to have the gift sent to the home prior to the wedding. Many did so, but also many brought gifts and cards to the wedding. I do find it odd that this couple "normally" sends their gifts late for a wedding. I don't understand the logic to that. My daughter will just have to wait to see what happens!
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There is no logic to sending a gift late. In fact, doing so send a negative message to the recipient that can mean, "Hey, we just don't care enough...". Hopefully, someone close to this couple can set them straight. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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