Do we give a wedding gift in addition to money already spent?
My niece and her husband, as well as their three children, are all members of the wedding party of my niece's husband's brother. They have purchased dresses and rented tuxedos for all five family members. Additionally, my niece and the other bridesmaids went together to put on the bridal shower. The bride and groom planned a nice bachelor/bachelorette party mini vacation, and then told my niece and her husband what their share of the bill was. When my niece and her husband tried to protest over the situation, the b/g and my niece/husband got into a huge fight over the situation. Finally, my niece does beautiful scrapbooks and last year made a wedding scrapbook for another friend ... at the time, this new bride asked my niece to make a scrapbook for her as well, and she has been helping my niece pick out supplies for the scrapbook, but has not contributed financially to it.
Our question is this: since my niece and her husband have already spent well over $2,000 for all of the aforementioned things, does etiquette dictate that they should still give a wedding gift? Or are all of these things ... which they could have said "no" to ... considered the gifts?
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The bride and groom do not plan the bachelorette/bachelor party since this is planned by, and paid for by, the friends. Same with the showers. Your niece was not obligated to pay for any of this. If she did, it was her choice, or should have been.
In any event, she could surely present the scrapbook as her wedding gift. You simply cannot out a price tag on any wedding gift. This one seems perfect. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Do we give a wedding gift in addition to money already spent?
