I am going to be in the wedding of 2 very good friends this weekend. I unfortunately am broke due to car troubles, etc. Adding to my brokedness is that I spent 250 bucks on a bridesmaid dress (which I happily forked over), 70 bucks on a bridal shower gift, 80 bucks on a hotel room, not to mention that I have to pay for my hair and nails to be done. I didn't spend this much on my own wedding. They generously gave me and my husband a gift card for our wedding. I'm wondering, am I required to buy them a wedding gift? Can my gift be that I'm in the wedding.. cause at this point I'm going to have to take out a second mortgage to afford it.
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Re: [iamredmaet] Does bridesmaid have to give a wedding gift
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Whenever we agree to be a member of a bridal party we must always consider the expenses that will be incurred. If you're in a financial bind you should be forthcoming with the bride so she can make plans accordingly or you should not accept. Your not a gift that can be given, so, your participation in the wedding cannot be considered a gift. Sorry.
It is your choice to give a gift or not. But, it is expected in most social circles. The gift does not have to break the bank and can even be handmade or even a coupon to provide your service. Perhaps the bride needs help painting her new place? In that case, give her a coupon for a few days of painting from you. If she's a good enough friend to ask you to be a member of her bridal party, then she'll understand your predicament and appreciate whatever you give. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Re: [iamredmaet] Does bridesmaid have to give a wedding gift
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I completely agree. A personal gift is remembered longer than the great blender that only lasted a year.
It is unfortunate that the couple did not pay for your lodging. This is their responsibility.
Does bridesmaid have to give a wedding gift
