I am writing because I just got married on March 5, and we have finally finished going through all of the cards and gifts, and now are writing out the tank you cards. Here is the situation:
Both my husband & I work for the same company and we thought it would be appropriate to invite some coworkers and the president and the vice president of the company ( we work for a small company), they accepted the invitation. We all had a great time. But we noticed that there was NO CARD, nothing from them as a gesture of thanks or well wishes from the President and VP of our company , but all the other co workers gave gifts. With this is mind, I did not know what do to, I thought maybe I had lost it - or it got misplaced. So I went up to my boss ( the VP ) and told her I felt funny and asking her this, but I told her that I thought I had misplaced the card, and I was embarasses in telling her so, but I was concerned, for if there was a check enlcosed, I wanted them to know. This is what happened:
MY VP admitted in not giving us anything (with that I was shocked), but it is what she said afterwards is why I am writing you. She advised me that according to EMILY POST, a guest has up to 1 year to give a wedding gift.
Is this so??, and what is you intake to the fact, that we still work for he company and they did not give us a gift. I personally think it is RUDE and very inconsiderate.
Angry and Confused.
Jowaltaj
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Apr 19, 2005, 8:57 AM
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Re: [jowaltaj] Gift Giving Etiquette
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Your VP is incorrect; as per Emily Post's newest book on etiquette (17th edition) wedding gifts should be sent as soon as the wedding invitation arrives. Many people do wait to give the gift at the wedding reception but you can see what sort of issue this causes.
It is considered proper to bring a gift to a wedding however the bride and groom should never expect gifts. The entire reason for a wedding is to proclaim your love and commitment to one another in the prescence of those you care most about; your friends and family. (The bridal shower is the real venue for gift giving). Make the wonderful feelings and memories your focus and forget about your boss' faux paus. Above all, don't allow other's rudeness to bring you down to their level and cause you to be rude in return.
I wouldn't go back to the VP and apprise her of her error since doing so would be considered to be improper. She is obviously someone who is not privy to what is socially acceptable so turn the other cheek. Now, that being said, if someone else in your company were to bring this to her attention...well...I suppose you could't stop that right? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Gift Giving Etiquette
