This is the second marriage for both my fiance and I, and we're wondering what to expect in terms of gifts. Because it's the second time around, our wedding ceremony will be a private affair with just us, the minister, a photographer and a witness. The reception will be the big party where we'll invite our friends and family and will be held a month later. We're wondering if gifts are appropriate only when inviting to both events, or if it's out of line to think otherwise.
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Re: [cherann] Gift etiquette when only inviting to reception
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Guests are only expected to give gifts if invited to the wedding. That being said, you might find that many guests will send a gift even if only invited to the reception. Gifts are supposed to be sent to the home of the bride before the wedding.
My theory is - never expect gifts. Then anything you get will be appreciated. This whole business about being obligated to give a gift has gotten so out of hand and really revalues the gift. I mean, if someone feels they must give you something and they're forced, what's the point? I'd appreciate a gift so much more if the person gave it "just because".
Keep the focus on the wedding - the vows, the music, the spirit, the love - these will be your lasting memories of the day and what you'll cherish. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Gift etiquette when only inviting to reception
