Out friends are having a a formal bridal ceremony and reception paid for by the brides parents. The couple was previously married in a civil ceremony with a small backyard party. Most friends gave generous gifts already after the civil ceremony as if they were for a formal wedding. Now the formal celebration is here and most of us agree that we don't want to give another gift, but don't want to seem cheap. What do we do?
Also, the bride already had a bridal shower for the civil union and I am told she is planning to have another. I don't want to buy another gift or even attend the 2nd shower. I feel like the bride is being greedy. Is it wrong to not go or give a shower gift.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Mar 6, 2006, 10:57 AM
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Re: [sally111] Gift for formal wedding after Civil ceremony
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Dear Already Gifted,
There is so much going on here that is improper. I wish couples who insist on having two ceremonies would read your post. It doesn't seem right, does it?
They are married, but want to have a shower? It is impolite, improper, and illogical. She is not a bride and is already married. This is a party for a bride.
And, the civil ceremony was a wedding. The formal affair is just a vow renewal. It isn't a gift giving situation. Sometimes we give for bench mark anniversary events, but not for this.
Feel free to skip both. The couple doesn't need four wedding gifts from everyone they know. Yes, this is a greedy act.
Gift for formal wedding after Civil ceremony
