I was invited to the bridal shower for the daughter of one of my neighbors. I don't really know the bride very well at all. I was asked to get a gift for the bride for the shower from her gift registry. I did. Then I was also invited to the wedding. I overheard my neighbors talking about also being invited and that they had to get another gift for the wedding too.
Is it customary to give gifts at both events, or is it acceptable to give a gift at the shower and not at the wedding. We don't want to offend anyone, but on the other hand it seems a bit odd to be expected to buy gifts twice, especially for someone that I barely know. Would it be an insult to our neighbor to not buy a wedding gift too?
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This is the reason we tell hosts of these showers to make them small and invite only those closest to the bride and groom. Sigh...
It is expected that you would bring a gift to both the bridal shower and to the wedding. However, since you really don't know the bride that well, you could decline the shower invitation and save the gift for the wedding.
Hopefully, future shower hosts and brides will read this post, and the many we have just like it, and understand how their guests perceive their invitations. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I could not agree more. If you have already given the shower gift, you could either decline the wedding invitation and not give a wedding gift, or you could ask your other neighbors to join in with you to purchase a joint gift. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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