We received a gift at our wedding that we can not figure out who gave us. We have it narrowed down to 5 potential couples (all on my husbands side) who could have given it to us.
Am I out of line to ask the 5 couples if they left the gift. I hate to have received something and not properly thank the giver. My husband thinks it's rude and will make the couples who didn't give us anything feel bad. HELP !
It's not the same thing - we don't have any card. If we had a card we would just send a thank you to that person or to all the people who we had cards for.
This gift has no card, should we just send thank you's to everyone who showed up ? Apx 20% of the people who were there did NOT bring a gift.
Actually, those questions were exactly like yours and the answers would be the same.
I prefer the covert method of finding out who gave the gift. That was the second post mentioned above. Ask someone close to the couples to find out convertly if they gave the gift, by saying something like, "The reception was so much fun and the couple received so many nice gifts." Many times the giver will say what they gave at this point and mention that they hope you like it. If not, there is no further prodding or it may seem as if the family member wants the person to give a gift.
If this doesn't work, then you will have to send a personal letter to each of the five explaining what happened and that you are enjoying the gift.
And, as I said in those post mentioned above, this is a very good reason we ship gifts to the couple before the wedding so there is no confusion. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Gift with lost card
