I am the Best Man for my friend of 28 years and I am greatly honoured, to say the least. First wedding for both bride and groom, first best man duties for me. They have decided on a destination wedding set for late November in a beautiful spot which will cost attendees several thousand each to attend, for airfare & accomodations. They were kind enough to plan for group rates at a nearby resort for guests to book, which all have done.
Immediately after the wedding announcement, they announced via WOM that there is no expectation of gifts. The logic of this is obvious to me. I think there is also the idea that this event will double as a "vacation" for guests.
I have known the Groom for most of my life and I have always thought of a certain gift for him at some point: a fountain pen. I have been thinking that this gift might be used by both B & G as the instrument to "sign their lives away" - the license!
We all accept the notion of "no gift expected", but here are my questions:
If I gave this gift to the Groom as a personal gift in this way, would this be a breach of etiquette? i.e.: would this offend the Bride?
Should the gift be presented to the two of them, as a traditional gift, inspite of the "no gift" plan?
If it stays as a gift to only the Groom, should it be given as a private, "away-from-the-event" gift so as to avoid misinterpretation?
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Re: [BMOC] Giving gift to groom only?
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Dear Very Good Friend -
Your gift idea is very sweet. I would say that you can present the gift either way - to the groom only or to the couple. It will depend on your relationship more than on etiquette. It would probably be best to give the gift before the wedding and in private. You should note that even though the couple has requested no gifts, some guests may still give (guests should send gifts to the home of the bride before the wedding). Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Giving gift to groom only?
