My son is getting married this Saturday. One of the items on their registry is a decorative picture, rather big, which I planned to give them. Would it be OK to give it to them at or after the rehearsal dinner? They wouldn't necessarily have to open it then, but I would just like to get it to them without having to schedule a separate time to take it to their house. It is difficult as they have been and will be understandably busy. They are going on a week-long honeymoon afterward, will be home for a few weeks, and then going on another pre-planned trip. It just seems convenient to give it to them Friday night and be done with it, even if it means transferring it from our trunk to theirs in the parking lot. I'd like to be able to give it to them pre-wedding, along with the card.
Thank you for your anticipated response - you have been so helpful in the past. This is a wonderful site and often a life-saver!
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Etiquette Now
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Sep 25, 2008, 6:01 PM
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Dear Cumulus,
I'm so glad we have been able to assist you in the past.
It would be best to give them their gift before the rehearsal dinner/wedding and not at the rehearsal dinner venue. Giving it to them there could cause unwanted pressure on those who didn't bring a gift. This really isn't a gift giving occasion for the couple. But, I do see where you have a bit of a problem with the timeline. So, perhaps you could let them know that you have a special gifts waiting for them upon their return.
Transferring it from your trunk to theirs sounds like a great idea, but they may feel that they need to take the gift home right away. Plus, it could get stolen causing damage to their vehicle. There are those who just wait for opportunities such as that.
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cumulus
Sep 30, 2008, 12:57 AM
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I wasn't planning on making it a public gift-giving, but simply wanted to get the gift to them in a private manner, and they could open it later. As things sometimes go, the picture has since become unavailable , so I have to go to Plan B and purchase a different gift. Due to time constraints with getting something different and size of Plan B gift, this means I won't be able to give it to them anyway until they return from their honeymoon!
Dilemma solved. Thanks again for your quick response!
Giving wedding gift at rehearsal dinner.
, so I have to go to Plan B and purchase a different gift. Due to time constraints with getting something different and size of Plan B gift, this means I won't be able to give it to them anyway until they return from their honeymoon! 
