Groom's mom gave wedding accessories bride doesn't like
My future mother in law was very kind to give my fiance and I a few wedding accessories as Christmas gifts to use at our upcoming wedding. She is a very thoughtful gift-giver. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and even the quality of silver on these gifts but I don't care for the designs on them. I would feel embarrassed and uncomfortable to use these accessories at our wedding. I also would not look forward to using the flutes or cake serving set at future anniversaries and we aren't even having a unity candle ceremony so we have no use for that gift.
I do not want to hate these wedding accessories and I would rather use valued and loved keepsakes that can be reused at anniversaries and birthdays. I should have told her how I felt at Christmas time, but I was embarrassed and didn't want to seem like bride-zilla or ungrateful. I really love my future mother-in-law and I worry that she will be hurt no matter how nicely I try to talk to her about it. I do not want her to feel any resentment, but if I use these accessories even though I hate them, I will be the one feeling resentment.
Should I just suck it up and use the keepsakes she bought for us? Should I try to tell her the truth?
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Re: [CALIFORNIAbride] Groom's mom gave wedding accessories bride doesn't like
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Dear Californiabride,
This is a personal call as only you and your fiance know her well enough to know if her feelings would be hurt. It is best to accept the gift and use them. But on the other hand, we really shouldn't give items such as these that may be or may not be a person's taste. Perhaps your fiance should speak to his mother and tell her that these do not fit into your wedding theme or personal taste. It may be best coming from him. There is no guarantee that her feelings won't be hurt though.
Groom's mom gave wedding accessories bride doesn't like
