My wedding was 10/29/05 and I have not finished sending thank you notes. Why?? Because we had a bit of a disaster with the gifts. When my mother, who is a bit unorganized) was unloading them at our house after the wedding the cards got separated from the gift it came with. So now we have gifts and we do not know who they are from. These are mostly my new mother-in-laws church friends and I don't know them. I hate to ask them "what did you give us". (We cannot ask my mother-in-law to ask either because she has alzheimer's and would never remember to ask - or be able to remember what they said). For one of them I just have a card that reads "a gift for you". I am so unsure of how to handle this. I know it is best to be as specific as possible in a thank you note, but can I just say "thank you for the thoughtful gift"? I also have some greeting cards and I'm not sure they even go with a gift. It is such a mess. Please help if you can... also, it has been just over 5 weeks since my wedding. Should I apologize for not being more prompt in sending these last few cards??
Thanks for your help!
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Dec 5, 2005, 2:26 PM
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Re: [tonnabug] Help!! Don't know who gifts are from!!!!!!!
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Dear Help!
Typically I suggest going about this as a bit of detective work with family trying to find out who gave what as indiscreetly as possible. But, I don't think that will work in this case. So, as much as it hurts to say this, I think you will have to be honest. Just let them know that you appreciate their kind gift and wish you could be more specific.
Yes, it would be best to apologize about the late date.
It is unfortunate that more people do not send their gift before the wedding. Of course, any gift is a wonderful gesture. But, notes separating from the gifts is so common.
Help!! Don't know who gifts are from!!!!!!!
Please help if you can... also, it has been just over 5 weeks since my wedding. Should I apologize for not being more prompt in sending these last few cards?? 
