My parents and my brother are under the impression that one must give the exact same amount for a wedding gift as they were given. They scolded me because they did not think that my gift to my brother and his new wife was equal to the cash amount that they gave me for my wedding. I spent a substantial amount for their gift, but I admit that I did not note whether my gift was exactly equal to the one that they gave me. My parents often ask me what their friends gave me so that they can give the same amount. Is there a rule of etiquette that I am missing?
No, you're not missing anything. I don't know where people come up with these ideas but gifts are supposed to be gestures given to show care and/or congratulations. If it were true that we should all give the same amount, then why even bother giving it. (I give you $50 and later you give me $50) Silly. And, we never know the real "value" of a gift nor should we. Besides, in my opinion, the value of the gift can never be measured in currency. I have received gifts that mean more to me than any amount of money. I once received a card with a handwritten note inside that has become one of my most treasured belongings because of the sentiment written inside. I have it framed and hung on my wall. It reminds me of how much this person cares and having a good freind is one of the worlds best gifts.
So, shame on your parents for not setting a good example for their children. However, it seems as though you have the right idea. Maybe the children can teach the parents something. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
How Much to Give for a Gift
No, you're not missing anything. I don't know where people come up with these ideas but gifts are supposed to be gestures given to show care and/or congratulations. If it were true that we should all give the same amount, then why even bother giving it. (I give you $50 and later you give me $50) Silly. And, we never know the real "value" of a gift nor should we. Besides, in my opinion, the value of the gift can never be measured in currency. I have received gifts that mean more to me than any amount of money. I once received a card with a handwritten note inside that has become one of my most treasured belongings because of the sentiment written inside. I have it framed and hung on my wall. It reminds me of how much this person cares and having a good freind is one of the worlds best gifts. 
