I need some suggestions for a gift - I'm father of the groom
Ok, folks, please help!!!
I'm the father of the groom and I don't know what to get my son and soon-to-be daughter-in-law as a wedding gift. It's going to be a complicated affair given that his mother and I were divorced four years ago and she is still very bitter, and he took her side in the wedding. He and I have had a strained relationship ever since. It's starting to warm over the past six months or so. But, I love him, have always been there for him, and I want to do something special.
I worry that just getting something from their registry, even the most expensive item is only $250, won't be enough - and I'd prefer not to give them cash.
Interestingly, he and is bride are far better off financially than I am so I will struggle with something expensive. But, then again I don't want to appear cheap.
Any thoughts?
John
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The best gift comes from the heart, not the wallet. Give your past a lot of thought. Given what you;ve told me, I would imagine, if this were me, that I might construct a heartfelt letter letting my son know how much I care for him and his soon to be wife. Of course, what you say must be your own sentiment but hopefully this gives you an idea.
Perhaps, in addition, you could put together a book of memories of you and your son with clippings and photos you might have and then leave half of the pages empty, telling him you hope he'll fill it with memories all of you will create together as a blending family.
If all of this seems to sappy, you could scale it back a bit and offer them your help after the wedding to fix up the new apartment or home - painting, hanging photos or any way you could offer them service.
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Mar 15, 2007, 6:22 PM
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I couldn't agree more. For my second (at last) wedding gift my mother gave me a jar of homemade plum jam with a little note addressed to her 'little girl'. It was the best gift I have ever received as it was my childhood favorite. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Mar 17, 2007, 5:13 PM
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Thank you for your replies... I thought of doing some of those things but then I thought that they were too specific to my son and neglected my daughter-in-law. What do you think?
Also, I am not destitiute, I can afford to get them something. Is getting them something off their register ok, or will that seem to ordinary?
I'm confused. Thanks very much for helping.
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Mar 17, 2007, 5:53 PM
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Anything you do is going to be fine. If you want to give them something from their registry, this is good. There is no 'one' perfect gift. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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You could do both, put together something personal (which, by the way, his new wife should find interesting and special since his happiness is her happiness) and select a gift for them both. You can select something off the registry but, if it were me, I would look for something really special that shows you took some time to consider them as a couple. The very best gifts are those the recipient would never buy for themselves - or ask anyone to buy. These are gifts that make an impression and are never forgotten, used up or packed away. Put on your thinking cap and I'm sure something will come from your heart.
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