Is it rude to attend a reception without a gift even though reception invitations do not obligate me?
Hello,
My father wants to invite (reception only) people whom my future husband and I don't know very well. In the invitation he wants it to state 'Please no presents or monitary gifts'. We already have two different sets of invitaions (ceremony and reception and just reception) I do not want to pay to have another set made up just for these handful of guests. I thought that it was common knowledge that if you are only invited to the reception you not required to bring a gift. (A rule that I never follow) Weddings are about celebrating your love for one another and not the gifts, that is why not only do I refuse to have a gift registry in the invitations but because we have been together for nine years and lived with eachother for five, I felt that it was inappropriate to even register. If that really is common knowledge, and people follow that rule, is it considered boarder line rude (like showing up at a family function and not even bring a salad)? This is kind of a 'catch 22' situation.
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It's refreshing to hear of a bride who has her priorities in order. Thank you.
First, you would never include registry information with your wedding invitations (just an FYI). Second, only those closest to the couple should be invited to the wedding or reception for the very reasons you ask about here. Many guests do feel obligated to send a gift, even when invited only to the reception.
Wedding gifts are supposed to be sent to the home of the bride before the wedding. But, you're right, that only applies to those invited to the wedding, although, many reception guests will still send a gift. You should not mention gifts in your invitation at all, whether you want them or not.
I hope this answers your question. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 21, 2008, 5:49 PM
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I agree completely and couldn't have said it better myself.
And, bravo! It is very refreshing to hear about your views on gifts. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Is it rude to attend a reception without a gift even though reception invitations do not obligate me?
