I live in a place where unfortunately, it is the norm to bring gifts to the wedding rather than send them ahead of time. Every wedding I have been to recently, guests bring cards more than anything else to the reception. After hearing so many horror stories about missing, lost, or stolen cards from my friends and from this board, I thought I would make a card box so all the cards brought to the reception would stay in one place and not be misplaced at the reception or lost in transport. I figure since guest are going to bring cards to the reception anyway, this would be a solution to the problem. (I now understand why gifts should be sent to the home prior to the wedding!)
However, I recently have read on your boards about "wishing wells" I had never heard of these before. I'm not exactly sure what they are, but it seems like they are used as a means of collecting extra money at the reception, maybe people just drop bills in there?? Is this what they are???
I do not want my guest to think I have one of these wishing well things and that I am expecting additional money from them. However, I spent quite a bit of time on my card box (it is a replica of my simple wedding cake) and planned to use it as additional decoration on the gift table. If I don't use the card box, I take the chance of loosing cards. What can I do to make sure guests understand that it is just a card receptacle and not a wishing well???
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Sep 21, 2007, 3:07 PM
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Re: [IansGirl] It's not a wishing well, I swear!
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The wishing well, in most places, is placed at the bridal shower and small token gifts are dropped in for the bride. However, I have heard of some who provide a well at their wedding for guests to be able to deposit monetary gifts. Tacky. It's never polite to expects gifts, and especially, in this manner it would appear as though you're holding your hand out just waiting for the gifts.
If your think you may have many guests bringing cards with money inside, be prepared by having a purse or a place to safely store the cards (perhaps even have someone to watch over these for you planned ahead of time). I'm sorry that you spent so much time on your wedding cake box. Maybe you can use it to store your cards, but, if it looks at all like a gift drop leave it in the reception venue's back room or somewhere safe. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 21, 2007, 7:07 PM
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Re: [IansGirl] It's not a wishing well, I swear!
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I agree. This just may appear to be one of those tacky wishing wells--not a positive. So, I also agree that it may be best to assign someone to the table to collect these envelopes. This person can give them to you at the end of the evening or the next day. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
It's not a wishing well, I swear!
