I am recently married and I have a question about gift etiquette (obviously!). My aunt left $100 cash in an envelope with a card at the reception on the gift table, and no one EVER saw it, and for some reason my aunt didn't give us the heads up that she left it until just now (a month later). It is lost, probably gone forever. I feel really bad about it. Is there anything I should do?!
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What a shame. This is why etiquette suggests sending all gifts to the home of the bride before the wedding.
Not much you can do about the loss but you will have to send some sort of thank you card. You can either be honest with your aunt or tell a little fib. Depends on the aunt and how she'll take it. Sometimes we have to lie to save someone's feelings. But only do so if you're sure no one will ever tell her. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thanks for the tip! She is aware that it got lost. I didn't realize she had even left a gift until she complained to my grandmother that she didn't get a thank you card from me. Then my grandmother told my mom about it, and my mom informed my aunt that no one ever saw the card, and I didn't get it. Sigh. Eventhough we had a super small wedding (<30 guests!), things still got lost and confused.
I guess I can say that I appreciate her generosity, but that I am sorry that it got lost in the shuffle, or something along those lines. I just can't believe she laid an envelope with cash on a table (in a public place) and didn't tell anyone in the family to watch out for it when we picked up the gifts. My mother (her sister) didn't even know about it. It probably fell under or behind the gift table, or maybe someone on the staff stole it. Who knows? The other people at the wedding who gave us cards (with or without money) handed them to us or to my parents personally, so they wouldn't get lost. I know she feels bad about it, and I feel bad about it too. I will try and write her something sweet without sounding disappointed. It's the thought that counts, right? (I won't say that though. That sounds too glib.)
I have learned that when I give cash gifts in the future, I will write a check or personally hand it to the recepient!
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Personally, I'd rather have a gift someone selected for me. These have so much more meaning. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree on all accounts. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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