I've read some posts on here dealing with asking for money as a gift. However, I think I have an unusual sort of situation--one that I didn't find addressed here. Directly after getting married, my husband and I are flying to LA, going to the British Consulate to apply for my spousal visa. He owns a home in London, and that's where we plan to live. Obviously, it would cost us a small fortune to send gifts over the pond, and electrical things from the States won't work over there. Most of the people who have been invited to the wedding understand this, and aren't bothered by giving us cash instead. However, I'm afraid I may offend some of my older, more traditional guests. I want to include a small note inside our invitations asking people to please only send monetary gifts, with a brief explanation as to why. Is this a major etiquette no-no? Or under these circumstances be ok? Thanks in advance
Also, I should note that the house in London is fully furnished with all the bits and bobs a person could want. We truly have no need for towels, kitchen items, linens or the like.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jan 11, 2007, 3:07 PM
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Re: [Solobeatlefan] Money as a Gift--Need Advice
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Dear Wants Cash,
It is understandable that any guest would be offended if they were told that all you want is cash. It isn't a positive statement. Plus, it is probably the worst gift to try to give. What amount is appropriate?? One amount could seem generous to some, while the same is lacking to another.
It is never appropriate to ask for cash, especially in invitations--no mention of gifts is to be included.
This question comes up quite a bit. You could register in stores in the UK. You could also include your UK address at all of the stores where you register. Gifts should be shipped so this shouldn't be a problem.
Other than that, if you have everything anyway, why not give the odd gifts that you do receive to those who may need them.
Money as a Gift--Need Advice
