I am the groom and, as our wedding gift, my mom is paying for the honeymoon (which includes air travel and the price of the cruise). We have the shower coming up soon and my mom asked me what she should do about her gift. I automatically thought there is no need for a gift as she is already paying for the honeymoon. This brought up another question. How does she present her gift to us at the shower? I don't want her to come off sounding like "ooh look at me, I spent all this money on my son and soon to be daughter" in front of my fiance's parents who in turn are giving us an extremely nice cash gift. Both sets of parents are contributing to the wedding itself as well, however, unconventionally my parents are paying for a majority of it. So, all that being said, what is your advice on how our moms should present their gifts at the shower? We don't want to leave them out but we don't want them to seem snobby either.
(This post was
edited by TWQadmin on Apr 11, 2009, 11:02 AM)
Your parents are being very generous, but if the honeymoon is the weddng gift then there should be a small gift given at the shower. Typically shower gifts as inexpensive household type items. Gifts of cash, gift cards and intangible items aren't appropriate shower gifts for the reasons you have stated and there is nothing to open, which is typically the focus of the shower. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree. Plus, there is the option of the giftless shower, which would take the entire focus off of gifts and on to the upcoming wedding--a very nice affect. Then neither mother need worry about further expense. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Mother of the groom's gift
