No gift for my wedding. Should I provide a gift for their's?
I had a destination wedding where I invited the couple that just got married. They did not attend. When I returned, we had a stateside reception with full dinner that they attended. The couple did not provide a wedding gift.
I recently attended the couple's wedding and am wondering if it is proper etiquette to provide a gift, considering the circumstances?
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Gifts are given by wedding guests, not reception guests, though most guests to a "reception only" do send a gift. Certainly there could be reasons this couple didn't send a gift or, maybe they did send one and it got lost in the mail?
In any event, you shouldn't be giving a gift based on what they gave. After all, you're better than that, aren't you? If you attended the wedding then you should have sent a gift that reflects your feelings for the couple before the wedding. If you like these people, they are your friends, and you want to have a lasting relationship, send a gift now along with a note of apology. We cannot control how others act - we can only control our own behavior. Hope you make the right choice. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree.
Gifts really are for the wedding and not the reception anyway. And, I couldn't agree more that we shouldn't give based on what we receive. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
No gift for my wedding. Should I provide a gift for their's?
