My husbands daughter from a previous marriage is getting married. We have had no relationship with her in over 6 years. She was raised by her mother & step father, in fact his name is on the invitation (not my husbands name). We got an invitation to her wedding. We are not attending as it is in another state.
Should we send a gift, even though we have not even spoken to her in years. Part of me says no, because we have no relationship with her whatsoever; but part of me says yes, because biologically she's my husband's daughter.
What to do? Many thanks
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Nov 6, 2006, 12:47 PM
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Re: [kerberl] Not-Attending Wedding, Do I Send A Gift
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Dear Not-Attending,
The stepfather's name was probably on the invitation because he is paying. It could also be because he is in her life.
Just because the wedding is in a different state doesn't mean you two shouldn't attend. This is his daughter and you were invited. Perhaps she would like to see her father.
But, this is something you two need to decide on your own. As is the case with the gift. Typically parents give wedding gifts to their children.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] Not-Attending Wedding, Do I Send A Gift
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Thank you for your prompt reply. We're not going to the wedding in Texas, because we are in NY and we simply can't afford to. We didn't have any advance notice until the invitation showed up.
I sent a nice letter with the RSVP regret. I still have some time to send a gift before the wedding date.
We don't feel like her "parents" because she was raised by her mom and stepdad; and we have no contact with her. But, I know what you are saying.
Thanks again for replying. I appreciate your wisdom in these matters.
Not-Attending Wedding, Do I Send A Gift
