My husband and I are giving money to my stepson & his fiance to help pay for their wedding. Is this considered their wedding gift from us? How should the money be given? They live 3 hours from us, do we mail them a wedding card with a check inside and write that it is a gift for them to spend on their wedding? How soon should the money be sent? Should we also consider buying them a gift in addition to the wedding contribution? Your advice has been extremely helpful. Thanks for the great website
Nancy Tucker
PRESIDENT - WEDDINGS BEAUTIFUL
Aug 9, 2004, 7:02 AM
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Quickbrownfox,
You are very generous to be contributing to the wedding and the best thing to do would be to send the money in a handwritten note that explains it's intent. Be advised that if you are gifting the money, you will have no say in how it is spent. You are not required at all to give a gift at a wedding. However, if you can afford to and you run across something that you feel you'd really like to give to them, that's the true reason for gifts. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
Etiquette Now
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Aug 9, 2004, 11:02 AM
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Dear Contributing,
That is very generous of you and your husband to help these two young people with their wedding.
My first thought is that perhaps all of you could meet somewhere in-between your two locations. It would be wonderful to give them your contribution over a lunch, so all of you could discuss the wedding and actually feel a part of it. That would make it seem more personal. However, that is not always possible and may make them uncomfortable taking the money. So, back to mailing it... A card is fine, but a handwritten note is much more formal and proper. Please personalize it.
As for the gift... All gift giving is optional and even though it is not suppose to be expected, it sometimes is, especially from the parents. So, it is up to you if you would want to give a gift to the couple besides your contribution to their wedding. If you decide to give them a gift, it doesn't have to be anything especially expensive--just something from the heart.
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