I received a handwritten, hand delivered wedding announcement from someone at work. First, I thought announcements came after the wedding, and this one is for a couple of months away. Secondly, this is not an invitation to a wedding, reception, shower, etc. It simply states the couple will wed in a courthouse ceremony. At the end, it lists where the couple is registered and says that monetary gifts are accepted. Am I obligated to buy a gift? It screams to me, we're not inviting you to anything, but give us a gift.
thanks so much!
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Jul 31, 2008, 10:22 AM
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Re: Received Wedding Announcement before the Wedding
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Dear Dia,
That is exactly what it is saying. It is saying, "Hey! I'm getting married and am so very special that you should feel privileged in giving me your money." Of course that person must feel as if she/he is so very special because she/he broke a couple of very important etiquette rules--announcements are sent after the wedding and only to those who need to know (doesn't usually include workmates) and we never mention gifts. Geez.
You are under no obligation to give anything. Hopefully no one else does. We really don't treat others in this manner. Hopefully she/he will realize this one day.
Re: Received Wedding Announcement before the Wedding
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Are you absolutely certain this is not an invitation? And, even if you're sure, maybe you should put her on the spot and accept her "invitation"! When she has to say to your face that you're not invited, then you can reply that you were sure it was an invitation since... Oh, of course, I'm kidding. But, wouldn't that be fun to watch? <devilish>
I sure hope lots of brides read your post so they can see how offensive their actions can be. Most never put themselves in the place of their guests, or in this case, their coworkers. Very sad. I agree with Rebecca. But, I might make a wedding card and leave it on her desk <devilish again>. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Received Wedding Announcement before the Wedding
