Waiting for wedding pictures to send out thank you notes.
We got married a week ago, and I have all the thank you cards done, but would like to include our wedding picture. Our photographer is making special pictures for this, but it's going to be another month before I get them. Iv'e searched the posts and have seen that it is recomended to have all your thank you cards sent out within three months of the wedding. I feel that this is too long. I am wondering if I should send out the cards now and then pictures later, or will no one even care?
Thanks so much!
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Jul 28, 2008, 10:33 AM
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Dear Kristel,
I've never said that anyone has three months or any arbitrary set of time to sent thank you notes, because there is none. I'm sorry for any misunderstandings.
All thank you notes should be sent out as soon as the gift arrives. Many times this is before the wedding. Since you are waiting for pictures to send with your thank you notes, it may be best to contact your guests and let them know that their thank you notes are coming soon.
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I agree that if you received gifts before wedding (which is really how gifts should be given) then you should have already sent the thank you notes to let your guest know you received the gift. Many guests don't know that they are supposed to send the gift to the home of the bride before the wedding and, in many circles guests bring cash. So, if the majority of your guests brought the gift to the wedding then they are fairly sure you received it and waiting one month shouldn't be a huge issue. Don't wait any longer than 2 months, though. Perhaps you can sit down and write all the notes ahead of time and address the envelopes so all you'll have to do is to insert the photo, seal and mail. Don;t forget that you should be writing a little personal note in each card. never send a pre-signed or filed in card with just your signature. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 28, 2008, 3:00 PM
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Very, very good points. I do, sometimes, stick to some ridged rules about gifts and thank you notes and not everyone follows that rule, not even all etiquette professionals. I'm sure there is a bit of wiggle room here--relax, Rebecca. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Waiting for wedding pictures to send out thank you notes.
So, if the majority of your guests brought the gift to the wedding then they are fairly sure you received it and waiting one month shouldn't be a huge issue. Don't wait any longer than 2 months, though. Perhaps you can sit down and write all the notes ahead of time and address the envelopes so all you'll have to do is to insert the photo, seal and mail. Don;t forget that you should be writing a little personal note in each card. never send a pre-signed or filed in card with just your signature. 
