We gave at the Shower so no wedding gift needed?????
I was MOH at a wedding on June 3rd in SC. A couple of days after the wedding the bride and I were talking and she discovered that virtually no one from the groom's side gave a gift or even a card...including grandma, parents, aunts, and a couple groomsmen.
She used a ruse that my gift was missing so we feared that some were stolen (it was at a public plantation), to find out who had sent gifts or not. We thought maybe some had been stolen. Grandma respone was that since they gave at the shower it was "Southern Tradition" and they didn't have to give at the wedding?????
To top this off her parents paid for everything, except a $500 rehearsal dinner his parents paid for. The wedding cost well over $20K. This was a large wedding with 8 attendants on each side and 3/4 of the people there were his family and friends. Most from her side couldn't make it from the midwest due to expenses and travel distance.
Is his side of the family completely off their rockers or what? The bridal shower gifts they gave were nothing spectacular either and most of them are modest income families. She isn't a gift hog, but they didn't even give cards or acknowledge congrats in any way.
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Her best friend just trying to help her understand.
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Re: [formerblond] We gave at the Shower so no wedding gift needed?????
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Well, there is nothing to be gained from this information except to know that you're right but yes, guests are typically expected to bring a gift to the shower and another to the wedding. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
We gave at the Shower so no wedding gift needed?????
