Wedding Gift: Can we advise guests not to send gifts while we are away?
Hello. My fiance and I are having a destination wedding and will be staying for the honeymoon. We will be away for two weeks and do not live near anyone close to have gifts sent to. Is there a way to advise guests to either send gifts prior to the wedding or after the wedding so that they aren't sent to a home that cannot accept delivery? The closest relatives are 5 hrs away and it would be difficult to have gift sent there and then to us. I had heard AT HOME CARDS can be sent with invitations to advise when we will be away so that our guests know when to send the gift... is this true? Please help!!
Thank you! - Bride2008
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Mar 18, 2008, 10:13 AM
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Wedding gifts are supposed to be sent to the home of the bride before the wedding. However, if your guests don't know this, it really isn't your place to advise them. It would be impolite to mention gift shipment preference since that would indicate you are expecting gifts.
I would think that you could hold your mail at the Post Office for the two weeks you'll be away. If an independent carrier, such as Fed Ex or UPS try to deliver usually they want a signature. But, if they leave a package there isn't much you can do except, if you have a neighbor who could possibly check while you're gone.
Being that this is a destination wedding and these are typically small, I would email everyone and let them know about your honeymoon plans. But, don't mention gifts unless directly asked. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Mar 18, 2008, 2:22 PM
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I completely agree. Mentioning gifts is a major no-no.
The At Home Cards is basically for letting your guests know when you are moving into your new home and is for more formal weddings. These are also included in announcements. So, these would not be proper in your case. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Wedding Gift: Can we advise guests not to send gifts while we are away?
