I recently went to a wedding rehearsal and then we all went to a small restaurant. Everyone started to eat and drink and as people left, some left money and some didn't. I believe due to poor communication by the coordinators part. To make a long story short, when the bill came there was no where near enough money for the bill. Some left money totalling about 200.00. The bill went well over 400.00. To avoid any embarrassments to the couple, I paid the balance of over $200.00. I originally intended to give them $200.00 for a gift, but I feel I may have already paid that by picking up the party tab. Am I wrong or being selfish in feeling maybe I should forgo the gift and just send them a card with the Rehearsal party receipt?
No guests should have been expected to pay anything at a rehearsal dinner.
But, you helped the couple out because you were feeling generous. This should not be considered their wedding gift unless you told them ahead of time that it would be, although that would be very untraditional.
If you'd like to give them a less expensive gift then select one and send it to the home of the bride before the wedding. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
It was entirely inappropriate for the couple to expect their guests to pay for their dinners. And, I completely agree with our Wedding Queen. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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