I was the maid of honor in a friends wedding 2 weeks ago. It was a destination wedding in Cancun. They are also having a reception this weekend where the bride expects us to wear our dresses again. I paid for my entire trip costs. I figure with the cost of the trip, my dress, shoes, shower/bach party, dress dry cleaning, hair updo, hotel for the reception, etc.....the costs are upwards of $1600. Neither the bride nor groom have offered to cover any of the costs including lodging for the wedding or reception. Is it wrong for me to feel like I shouldn't get them a gift?
When agreeing to be a member of a bridal party we usually know that there will be some expenses. However, the couple should have paid for your lodging.
But, we don't send gifts based on monetary value, we send them to show care or good wishes. That being said, the gift you send can be inexpensive or even homemade if you're on a budget. Even a nice card with a hand written "coupon" which promises you'll donate a day of moving help or some other chore is acceptable. But note that you should have sent the gift to bride's home before the wedding since gifts are given for weddings, not receptions. Go ahead and send the gift now. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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