My husband's nephew/godson recently wed, who he has been extremely close to over the years. Not only did we send a gift immediately upon hearing of the engagement, we also assisted in splitting the cost (1/5) of a very expensive engagement party with my husband's relatives. As we no longer lived in NYC, we also bore travel costs for both ourselves and our two daughters.
Although we could not attend the bridal shower, we did send a gift, as did our 22 year old daughter who was also very close to our nephew, (even though she was never formally invited to the shower). A thank you note was sent to me alone.
When we received the wedding invitation, it was addressed to my husband and I and our "family." We took this to include our teenage daughter who lived at home (all the cousins were invited, regardless of age). When weeks went by without our adult daughter receiving an invitation, we sent her address by email to our nephew a second time (she had finished school and moved out only recently), assuming that she was still not in their wedding "database." She was then sent a solo invitation.
Our family again traveled to NYC for the rehearsal dinner (my husband had a role in the church ceremony) and the wedding. We gave an additional significant monetary gift at the wedding; our adult daughter also gave a generous monetary gift.
Five months later, we received one thank you note, with corrections overwritten. No separate thank you was sent to our adult daughter. Other family members were sent a picture of the bride and groom in their thank you notes. We had to purchase 4x6 pictures online from their photographer for $12 each.
Shouldn't thank you notes be sent to all gift givers? Shouldn't thank you pictures be either (1) provided equally or (2) provided to all guests who were a significant part of the wedding events? Is there ever an good reason to discuss this with the bride and groom?
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Apr 30, 2006, 5:35 PM
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Re: [AuntPeg] Wedding Gift Thank You
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Dear Not Thanked,
There really is no 'rule' about pictures. This is a personal decision.
Everyone should receive a thank you for each gifts and generous gesture.
Wedding Gift Thank You
