I got married a few months ago and invited two of my friends (that are a couple) to the wedding. Combined they gave me one of my wine glasses that was a total of $12. They are getting married this Saturday and I don't want to be cheap, but really don't want to spend a lot on a gift for them considering they only spent $12 on me. Would it be bad if I gave them a couple of items (totalling about $50) that I received for my wedding and couldn't return becuase I didn't get a receipt? I haven't used the items. The items aren't on the couples registry, but are similar to items on their registry (a utensils set w/ spatulas, spoons, etc and a white lasagna dish). Is this tacky? Also, if I shoudn't re-gift these items, what is an appropriate amount to spend on them?
Has the focus of the wedding really become the gift? Do we just invite friends and family to our weddings because we want them to cover the cost of their plate or to get what we think is "a really good gift"? I think you know that the answer is, no.
We should never give a gift based on what someone else gave. Give a gift based on your own budget and your relationship with the couple. Maybe your friends are having financial issues - who knows?
If you really had no use for the gift, but you really believe this other couple does and you are certain that the person who gave it to you won't care or find out then it's probably okay. But, from the way you are describing this situation, it seems that you're just annoyed and don't care about giving a thoughtful gift.
I'd steer clear of re-gifting since you could hurt the person who gave the gift if they were to discover you gave it to a friend.
No one can tell you how much to spend though.That's a personal choice based on all of the above. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. It sounds like you're trying to punish the couple - if I were in their shoes, I'd rather not receive any gift at all than receive one that was intentionally given to pay me back for a perceived wrong.
Celebrate with them as they celebrated with you and try to remember that it's the joining of two people, not the joining of a couple and some new stuff, that brings you there. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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