We had a wedding, and quite a few quests did not give gifts. So many in fact, we think some of the gifts might have have been stolen. Very close friends and family members gifts were not received. We find it very hard to believe that we did not receive a gift from some of them. How do we go about finding out if the gifts were stolen or not? Do we just do nothing and assume gifts were not given. My parents have said just don't worry about it, but I would hate to think the gifts were stolen. Any Advice?!?
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Jan 14, 2006, 5:27 PM
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Re: [April9921] Wedding gifts might have been stolen...
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Dear Not Gifted,
Actually, this is a trend I have been noticing lately--not giving gifts. I suppose it is a back-lash from guests who feel that gift giving has reached an unreasonable height of greed. This is very unfortunate for people who are courteous, considerate people. I am sorry if this is what happened in your case.
The biggest problem here is that those who gave gifts may be wondering where their thank you note is. But, what if their gifts were stolen? What could you do and what would be the result of knowing? I suppose it would be nice to know so that you could write thank you notes and also know that your guests gave.
Unfortunately, though, there is no way to find out if these guests gave without asking. This would be difficult because you couldn't ask and asking a family member to is putting them in an awkward position.
Your father is right. It is probably better to just this one go. Hopefully no one stole these gifts and hopefully no one is waiting in vain for a thank you note.
And, to everyone else who may read this... this is a prime example of why wedding gifts should be sent to the couple, or bride, before the wedding. Gifts can be stolen. Plus, it is easier for the couple to keep track of gifts and write thank you notes promptly.
Wedding gifts might have been stolen...
