A good friend of mine from home, came to our wedding but never gifted, though kept saying she had one for us. Its been over a year and she's been to our apt for dinner since but nothing. We DO realize that some people just don't or forget. It just leaves us curious as to why and leaves us feeling uncomfortable. We care about her but feel a bit slighted. We're not sure what to think? Any advice?
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edited by TWQadmin on Mar 21, 2008, 6:21 PM)
Not much to say here - you haven't gotten a gift. (Even though many etiquette experts feel that a wedding invitation obligates the recipient to bring a gift the bridal couple shouldn't expect gifts. The reason for having the wedding is to invite those nearest and dearest to help celebrate your love and commitment).
Maybe she did send a gift and it was lost in the mail or maybe she's embarassed that she cannot afford a to buy a gift - who knows? But, to let something like this get in the way of a friendship is silly. If you like this friend just forget about it and move on. Remember, friendships are lasting gifts while the monestary, material things are spent, used, stored away, etc. Focus on the positive here. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
There are a few of us gift weary people beginning a grassroots movement called the "sane gifter's club." It seems necessary because so many feel gifts should be the focus of all events--graduations for example. It is unfortunate.
I completely agree that our relationships should be the focus and not material gain. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Wedding guest didn't give a gift
