Who should the wedding gift be from and who signs the card?
My brother (46) is getting married this weekend (2nd marriage). It's his fiances first marriage and she is pregnant.
The wedding invitation was addressed to me on the envelope, then inside the individual names of my boyfriend, my two daughters and my older daughters boyfriend. 5 people in all.
My mother said my boyfriend(OF 2 YEARS) should give a seperate gift from me and the others.I guess I don't understand her reasoning. She said it's because he's my brother and my gift should be personal. I think that's ridiculous..... What is the proper protocal? I was going to give one envelope with money in it signed by all 5 of us. I haven't even told my BF my mother has suggested this. I think he would feel terrible..
And second of all I'm 48 years old, when will my mother let me make my own decisons??? GEESH My mother has way too much time on her hands to sit and think of these things...
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Well, the issue with your mother is more of a personal one, not related to etiquette, but your mom cannot wrestle you to the ground and force you to do things her way. This can only happen if you allow it. If you don't want to get into it with just say thanks for the advice and do whatever you want.
Since the invitation was addressed to you, the gift should be given from you. If you want to sign all the names of your family I don't see a problem with it but they don't need to send a separate gift.
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I agree. You were the invited guest and are allowed to bring guests of your own. So, only one gift is necessary.
And, as for mom...well, we moms tend to view our children as children even if they are over 40. I still find myself biting my tongue trying not to give advice to my two grown children. I guess it just means that she loves you.
Who should the wedding gift be from and who signs the card?
