My stepson and bride to be have decided as they have been living together for ten years that they would prefer money for a wedding gift ....so they are having a wishing well at the door of the reception..included in the invitation was an envelope with a poem on it explaining that they do not want gifts and money is to be put into the envelope and then in the wishing well..it is completely anonymous so they will not know who has given what to them....my husband and I received such a request in our invitation and we have already paid for 1/2 of the whole wedding so what would be appropriate for us to [put in this envelope ...I am new at this new way of weddings I found it a little rude but it is not my place to say anything..so I have said nothing ...both the MOB and MOG have rung me and voice their disaproval but I really don't know what any of us can do. Please let me know your thoughts on this new fashion
This is not a new fashion. This is just old fashion tacky. We have always had tacky. This is just another form of it.
Wishing wells are not proper anymore and in many regions never were.
It is too late to warn these people that this will be viewed very negatively. But, you are under no obligation to give anything. More than likely their well will be dry.
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